I call them. The other people. Their thoughts and notions. And should you tell them?
For myself I decided that me having this op is not something I am going to hide. I am proud of myself taking charge of my life. Doing the bravest thing I’ve ever done, for my future children and my family and my guy and mostly, surely, for me.
It is a huge step having weightloss surgery and it affects one’s whole life. Every aspect. Why should I hide it?
On the internet I’ve read at various places how negatively The Others responded to an individual “coming out”.
And I find that very curious. I mainly read American websites and blogs and I have been wondering whether this was a cultural thing.
Because you know what I have found, here in my country South Africa? That each and every person I have told, have been EXTREMELY supportive and kind. All of them are interested to hear more and ask questions as to what it is exactly.
And they are all happy for me. And think that I am brave, of compliment me on it.
They are not looking begrudgingly at me. They are not jealous or mean-spirited in any way.
People actually phone me and send little messages of encouragement and just checking in to check up on me and how I am doing.
And the most precious thing of all, they all understand that it is indeed NOT the easy way out. That it is incredibly hard.
So I have to say I find it so sad to read of people getting negative reactions. Why can’t people have the sun shine over another? Why not take the time to ask questions if you know you know nothing about something, and rather ask what it is about, than to just have to put your opinion on something – you don’t know anything about in any case!
Good luck to all out there who don’t have the support of their loved ones, their friends and family, and colleagues!